Distancing yourself from a friend can be hard. Distancing yourself from family members is another whole level. Maybe the most difficult and heartbreaking decision you may have to take in life.
Unlike friends, family members are not people you choose to be in your life. You don’t choose who your parents are or who your siblings are and sometimes getting along with them is just hard.
Everyone expect from their family to be there for them and not hurt them. However, some family member don’t understand this principle and can be toxic.
Family life has it’s ups and downs. We all fight with our siblings and this is normal. People shouldn’t cut from their family members because of one small argument. Fighting is healthy.
However, don’t be afraid to put yourself first. You can’t just compromise your mental and physical health just because someone is “family”.
So, you may ask: How do i know when it’s time to cut a family member from my life?
Bad time in life. You turn to a family member. Pour your heart out. You don’t care how vulnerable you seem to them because they are family and you desperately need help.
Later you find out they have betrayed you. Everyone knows your secrets. You feel humiliated. This is the last thing you would expect from a family member. Loyalty is important.
We talked about how getting into an argument with a family member is healthy. However, you can’t allow the fighting to get into your self-confidence by being repetitive and aggressive.
Being over judgmental and controlling is a sign of toxic people and you have no need to punish yourself by staying anymore in their presence.
They are very self-centered. They are not afraid to come to you for help, but they will distance themselves again as soon as they get what they want.
What happens when you need them back? The master of manipulation is long gone.
One day they are supporting you and the next they insult and judge you out of the blue.
They are attention seekers. So, when they are trying hard on something they want you to know of their effort. Getting your attention is very important to them and they can’t help it. It’s just in their nature.
They will always try to deny they did or said something in the past and that is a special kind of manipulation. It’s called Gas-Lighting. It will make you doubt if they said it or not, therefore you will doubt your own sanity or memory.
Chances are, you have a family member that matches the description above. If that’s the case, they are a threat to you. Toxic relationships can have a major impact on your well being.
Always remember that just because you have identified a toxic relationship doesn’t mean you should cut them from your life. Try to work things out.
However, some things can’t be worked out. Cutting them out of your life will be much healthier than staying in that kind of relationship.
Take care. If this article was helpful to you don’t forget to SHARE it with your friends and family.